Give Me A Break! – In Real Life #22

Everyone’s got a short fuse around here, and Mama needs a break! It’s In Real Life episode 22.

Stuff mentioned in this episode

How about you?

Do you work?Β What does your support system look like? Share with us in the comments below.

About the Author

Genevieve Howland is a childbirth educator and breastfeeding advocate. She is the bestselling author of The Mama Natural Week-by-Week Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth and creator of the Mama Natural Birth Course. A mother of three, graduate of the University of Colorado, and YouTuber with over 75,000,000 views, she helps mothers and moms-to-be lead healthier and more natural lives.


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  1. I drink way too much coffee and I have told myself I need it to survive the day. I am sleep deprived with a 6 month old. My first child and it’s hard! my mom helps a lot, but I’m a single mom and feel like without caffeine I would be falling asleep. But, you’re right, the come down is terrible and I do feel myself getting extra agitated. This is inspiring me to give up coffee and try the dandy blend you suggested. πŸ™‚ THANKS !!!

  2. Well my husband & I both work full time outside of the house. We have 4 children. My youngest is 9 & my oldest is 19. We do have a daycare that my youngest does attend in the summer, it’s owned by a family member so I never worry when she is there. My teenagers I have to say are a tremendous help to us when needed for the yougin! Since my children are older, our daily rountine is alot easier than it was when they were all little. We have 2 17 year old boys so when the big kids were little, life was crazy! Love your blog. Thanks for sharing your stories.

  3. Is stevia safe for kids? I’ve been reading some scary things online…

    • I use the whole leaf extract, which I feel comfortable using in moderation.

  4. My husband and I moved across the country from all our friends and family. We have zero help. I am a stay at home mom and it’s exhausting!

  5. I don’t work, but have mother-in-law next door to help. Also, hubs and I each take responsibility for one kid at night if they wake up – I get the baby, he gets the toddler.

    The hardest part is that 22/24 hours per day I’m ‘on duty’. Even when other adults are around, the kids are still my responsibility since that’s my “job.” Sometimes it’s not obvious that Mama needs breaks, too! Fortunately, it really is short lived and the indentured servitude ends. I could not survive as a single parent and experience the same three things when stretched too thin. My fourth thing is “have a pity party” = cry a little because all you want/ need is five minutes to drink your morning cup while it’s actually hot.

    Okay, you know this is how your fans vent & get free therapy, right?

  6. The funnel is a part from a breast pump. πŸ™‚ great idea. You mentioned in this video that you and Mike work from home. I was wondering what it is you and Papa natural do for a living? I’m currently looking for something to do from home so I can stay a stay at home mom. Any advice or direction would be greatly appreciated. Thanks and I love you shows!

  7. The item you are referring to is most certainly a breast pump flange 27mm… I have the same ones. For the past year, I’ve been on maternity leave with my son will soon be turning 9 months in August. Since I’ve moved to Europe, I’ve been working as an English as a Foreign Language Teacher and it has its ups and downs. I enjoy the flexibility it affords me to be always available for my children, but we certainly have help. My daughter, 2.4 years goes to a creche (which is a well-funded day care system and very difficult to get a place in) and I’ve been taking care of my son full-time. Recently, my husband and I began employing a nanny to give us a night out two times a week (since both children go to sleep around 6pm), and also get a little help around the house. Once in a while, I have a neighbor who helps and friends who come over to make a play date with the children. In regards to poor dietary intake disrupting your moods, I completely agree. One evening after dinner, I asked my husband whether or not he felt good after eating what we did. We examined our feeling and realized we were quick to anger and always feeling fatigued. Since then, we’ve met with a nutritionist and cut out sugar and gluten. Life has been peaceful ever since! God bless. πŸ˜‰

  8. As I speak, my husband is out of town and so are my main helpers, my parents. The baby came down with his first virus with fever and rash. My aunt came to the rescue and took two older kids for the day and it’s just baby and me. I feel like I am on vacation people!! Support is key!!

  9. The part goes to your breast pump, right?

    Question…I’ve read some bad stuff about Stevia…could you address this in an article? I’m not questioning your usage. I’m guessing you have found something that is okay and I’m wondering what makes it better.

  10. Breast Pump!!!!

  11. Where did you get that cool bottle/sippy cup? What brand is it, please? Thanks

    • Pretty sure it’s a lifefactory sippy, just google it πŸ™‚

  12. Mike Rocks! We really do need a Papa Natural too. I get so much from Mama Natural, but as a papa – it would be great to have a papa’s eye view.

    • AMEN! We need him to do his own show, don’t you think?

      • YES! Y’all make a great team! Would love to see parenting/marriage tips from both perspectives!

  13. I work in childcare so my kiddos come with me everywhere. And I look after everyone elses kids at the same time. My DH works 6 days a week so it’s all on me for caring for the kids. To be honest I do sometimes get frazzled because when he comes home he’s exhausted, I’m exhausted and I want help and he just wants to relax. We work around this by my being “off the clock, but on call” after 7PM (kids go to bed then) so that I can actually have some ME time otherwise I don’t get any. So the kids/husband have learned to look at the clock and then do it themselves unless it’s a crisis- because unless someone is on fire I will not. I’ve not peed alone since my first kid was born nor slept a full night, but I wouldn’t have it any other way either.

  14. its for pumping da milk! (^.^)

  15. My support system is my group of friends. They are always there to help me get out and get active. I totally recommend joining a moms group or making one in your area if that is lacking. It helps to have an outlet.

    I work full time and my son has daycare/preschool. When I get home at six it is often a mad dash to get everything done so we can do it all again. We’re just doing the best we can and we try to have a good attitude about the house being less than perfect or clothes piles waiting put away… Just trying to enjoy what we’ve been blessed with and have a sense of humor about the trying times.

    I do want to say I was pleased to hear about the notion mentioned from your church. It is really helpful to remember that we can’t judge our children’s childhoods by our own. They should exceed us and it is our job to make their lives richer. They make ours richer in return.

    • πŸ™‚ Glad you have support! Good humor always helps πŸ™‚

  16. Ha! That was most definitely a breast pump flange! As a working mom I’m all too familiar with that.

    As the daughter of a mom who though she didn’t need any help, it’s also been a heck of a hard journey for me to get to a place where I could accept help and realize that it’s a beautiful and blessed thing to have so many wonder people in my kids lives who desire to help raise them. It’s great for our marriage and great for our 2 kids in so many ways. It really REALLY does take a village.

  17. That would be a breast pump piece! I am a stay at home momma. My husband works really crazy hours (active duty Marine) so I’m not close to any family members and have very few friends I can call for help. Needless to say, I feel your pain! Our mornings usually start out great. Lots of love, patience and understanding. By about 3pm, the atmosphere starts to shift and, if my tot has had a nap then it’s off to her room for “quiet time”. She gets to have the iPad in there for this because it’s not that I need her to sleep, I just need to not see her for a few minutes. (I know sounds aweful). This is the only roughly 30 minutes I get to pick up the house, start dinner, wash some dishes, sort laundry, gather trash, ect. (Yes, I have all of that down to 30 minutes!). This week was worse. Daddy has been gone since Monday for training and it’s just been my and the 2 babies. My kids are the same ages as yours Momma Natural so you can imagine lol

    • Oh and to top it off the day daddy left we found out there will be a baby #3! Haha! Huge surprise!!!!!! That’s the kind if week it’s been here. Daddy lands tonight at midnight and we are leaving for a trip (14 hr car ride) to see the grandparents. Needless to say momma is ready for the break! And with that I need to get back to packing. Lol

      • Oh, Rebekah, I’m totally there with you! My husband got deployment orders right after our third was born. We’re smack in the middle of the deployment now, and support is thin. I just take things one day at a time, try to forgive myself, and yes, I use one Disney movie every day for my “babysitter” πŸ˜‰

        • Yeah I use the tv way more than I should but to fair, it mostly serves as back ground noise anymore. Both kids are fully mobile so they fallow me around the house asking a million questions about everything and don’t really spend much time in front of it actually watching it lol

    • Poor mama! I hear you!!!! I would encourage a 1 hour quiet time so you get a little balance πŸ™‚ Or, have them help out in kitchen. Griffin is starting to do this πŸ™‚

  18. Totally off subject with the video, but I just love Griffin’s “Give Peas a Chance” shirt. Where did you find that? Too cute! πŸ™‚

    • I’m not sure! Hand me down πŸ™‚

  19. What were you diffusing in your necklace?

  20. for me working from home, I do my work at night and occasionally I have a friend or my in laws watch my daughter so I can do something I need to. Hubby works nights so he sleeps during the day

  21. totally figured out it was a breast pump funnel!!

  22. Thanks for sharing. I also wanted to add that I don’t think fathers (and parents more generally) can only model heterosexual relationships. I hope that my son treats his partner with kindness, love, respect, and support whether he marries a man or a woman. My family focuses on loving one another, supporting the dreams and aspirations of love another, and creating community within our family. These values transcend sexual relationships and apply to families of all types.

  23. The others already answered the flange question. lol.

    I’ve been a freelance writer from home since my oldest was around 8 months old. I now have four children ranging in age from 4 months to 6 years. I generally don’t have child care (although my mom comes one day a week this summer), and have slowed down my work quite a bit, but I do still take assignments.

    On an ideal day, the baby wakes up at six, eats, and then goes back to sleep until around 8:30 – 9:00. I work during that time. Then everyone gets up and has breakfast, we do chores, my daughter does her school work, and I take care of whatever else comes up. The two youngest have a midday nap for 1-2 hours, and I use that time to work as well while the older two play or do crafts or something. Then it’s picking up, making lunches and dinner, going for a walk/jog after hubby comes home, and then bedtime routine. Then if I have more work to do, I work for another 2 or so hours after they are down for the night. On these days, all meals are totally whole foods, from scratch, everything…

    On a not ideal day… I wear the baby or rock him in his bassinet with my foot while I type frantically and the older kids watch a movie. We usually wind up eating random fruit, yogurt, nuts, and whatever else I can grab. Then it hits around 5 and I realize I haven’t started dinner and have no idea what I’m making. Some days I lay out meat for hubby to grill. Some days I order pizza. Some days I look back and don’t remember what the hell we ate.

    For the most part, I have come to accept that if I am going to work from home, I’m going to have those “survival mode” days, and that’s okay. I just plow through, try to not to lose my cool, and do my best to steer things back on track when the deadlines are done.

    If I have a particularly busy period, which doesn’t happen as often now, I also take a few days off and just do special activities with the kiddos. Park, crafts, or just whatever.

  24. Breast pump flange! My best friend and I are both dual military with our husbands. Our schedules require us to have long and erratic work days working most weekend too as we all fly or fix helicopters. Luckily our children go to the same daycare and we rely on each other to pick up, babysit even cook meals for each other. There is never any judgement and we are always there for each other since our families are too far to support. We are both heavily independent women who never anticipated needing to lean so heavily on others but we are so thankful for friends that are just like family πŸ™‚

  25. The funnel is from a breast pump πŸ™‚ and I do not work, I do own a business but I put it on the back burner right now while I’m pregnant and on bed rest which is impossible! My husband works outside the home and I am at home with the kids, My oldest daughter is out of school for summer right now and she is my help. during the school yr my 2 oldest kids are in school so its just me and my 2 yr old and soon this yr it will be my 2 yr old, new born and me πŸ™‚ my husband when home though is a great help with the kids and lets me rest when I need.
    Not much more support though

  26. Flange! Lol

  27. It is from your breastpump. πŸ™‚ Great idea!

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