For the past few weeks I’ve painted a sunny picture of life with a newborn. Well let me tell you, the clouds have rolled in. Hear all about it in this week’s update.
The past several weeks I’ve painted a pretty sunny picture of life with a newborn and let me tell you that the last have rolled in. It’s week 7 postpartum.
Here’s what happening physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Physically Paloma’s doing well. Her eyes are wide open when she’s awake she’s been smiling a lot, she likes to play on her activity mat, doing a little tummy time so that’s been really fun. Kind of what our routine is like, the minute she gets up, she wants to be nursed and that takes about 15 minutes or so, then I burp her really well kind of hold her of right for a little bit then I put her on her activity mat and she plays there for about 15 minutes so, that’s awesome.
I love to see her to be able to engage with her environment and just kind of be at peace in her own skin so to speak, and it seems like each week that time that she’s able to play independently, like that gets longer and longer and then after that she wants to be held and she just wants to be held and held and held and rocked. And then usually she nurses again she likes to come and break up from meal and then I bounce her and just hold her and carry her and she is very picky, you have to hold her in a certain way otherwise she’s just kind of crabby and she throws her head back.
She got me thinking oh my gosh she’s got gas, she’s got something wrong so I’ve been looking into it. So at first I gave her a lot of children probiotics and I’m actually giving those to her cuz they are very helpful and I also started giving her some different remedies for gas. So there is like colic calm which is a remedy, it has some homeopathic stuff and some other ingredients for one of them is an activated charcoal which helps to absorb some of that excess gas. So I started giving her that. It didn’t seem to help a ton and I think as I looked at her symptoms she wasn’t really exhibiting a lot of gas symptoms per se. Her stomach wasn’t gurgling, so wasn’t farting a lot or anything like that.
So then I started thinking, well maybe I need to take her to a chiropractor, so I took her to this chiropractor we’ve been going once a week and he’s been adjusting her and he did say you know what she does have some misalignment. The truth is babies that have really fast birth can have misalignments and they can store some of the tension and the force of Earth literally in their body.
Just so you know baby chiropractors they do not crack the baby, they do not do anything like that, it’s a very gentle manipulation. She doesn’t really like it that much but I’m hoping that it will help her with her neck throwback and stuff like that but I also think that she’s suffering a little bit from silent reflux. Regular reflux is when the baby projectile vomit. They can’t be laying on their back because it hurts so bad because of the gas and stuff like the acid I should say.
The silent reflux, the baby keeps it in and they kind of swallow it backdown so, they say it can actually can be more painful because it’s like the acid comes up and then they swallow it back down. It’s very common because baby has such an immature digestive system and that flap that covers the stomach from the esophagus can sometimes not close fully, stuff like that, but I think that might be part of what’s making her uncomfortable because I do notice that she swallows a decent amount when she’s up and she has some wet burps which is another sign, and I guess she just seems uncomfortable so I’m working with a homeopathic guy, I’ve been giving her a remedy, and I will keep you posted on how it goes.
Emotionally we’re doing pretty well although we have our moments of weariness. Paloma gets up from her last nap around 7:30 and then from 7:30 to 11 we call it the witching hour because she is just up and she wants to be held. So that’s what we do, we rock her, we bounce her, I carry her, we just are with her. Little snatches or she’ll go on her activity mat or where she’ll nurse or just do some other things but generally speaking she wants to be held and rocked. So Mike and I got really creative with what to do during this time. We’ll watch movies and I just keep her face away from the screen and that’s my kind of fun.
We’ve been singing songs, we’ll drink tea we’ll just think of things to do, to kind of kill the three and half hour block of time and it’s been hard cuz they know sometimes I just want to go to bed early but that’s kind of where her clock is right now. And luckily she’s not inconsolable, she’s not crying hysterically and I remember when Griffin hit 6 weeks from 6 weeks for like 3 months he had a witching hour and he would just cry and there was nothing I could do to make him stop. I mean I would rock him, nurse him, do all these other things didn’t work.
With Paloma she’s very easy to console, she’s very suitable. So she loves certain pictures in our house, she’ll just stare at. There’s a fan in her kitchen that’s really loud and she loves that. We rock her and she’s happy.
So that helps, the greatest gift is when we put her to bed at eleven she sleeps all the way through till 5 or 6 in the morning which is such a tremendous gift. I can’t believe that this is my child, that is sleeping that long just on breastmilk at this young of an age. So that’s kind of crazy and such a gift and reminds me like okay you can handle that 3 and 1/2 hour late night thing because you’re not getting up at night.
And as a result I’m pretty well rested and I’m thinking I’m going to be getting my period soon because I’m like that is such a long period of not nursing so anyways hopefully by 3 months or so she’ll start going to bed earlier that’s what Griffin did and it just so happens that Paloma turns 3 months on Valentine’s Day. What a great treat!
I’m really feeling connected and kind of this camaraderie with my fellow Chicagoans and midwesterners because this is been a really hard winter. It’s been very cold and very snowy. Usually we don’t get both of those but we are big time this year. So much so that Mike’s work was cancelled and that is crazy that never happens. Griffin didn’t start preschool they cancelled that I mean which I mean multiple days. So is just been wild and on Facebook and it’s everywhere people are saying gosh Are we going to survive this winter? I’m doing this stuck inside, and I’m eating a lot and I’m watching TV, I’m so bored.
Hey! Well welcome to my world this is where I’ve been living for 7 weeks people in my pajamas or in my yoga pants hanging out at home not going anyplace eating a lot because I’m nursing and starving all the time and it comforts me in some weird way, knowing that other people aren’t going anywhere any place either. So that’s actually been kind of fun and I think also would really help soon as my faith because I think in years past I would just kind of gotten into the depression, like oh my gosh this is terrible and just not being to leave the house would just drive me crazy but I think my faith always gets me that hope. And just, like you know, what this too shall pass, and I can find comfort in my relationship with God and find ways to commune with him that brings me joy in like the worst of circumstances and it’s not even the worst of circumstances we have a beautiful baby girl and I’m in a warm house, I got food in my fridge and then some, this is awesome.
So it helps me get through it and it reminds me with this one quote from Albert Camus that says “In the midst of winter I found there was within me an invincible summer”, isn’t it beautiful? so I’d like to just go to an invincible summer place inside and just chill.