Pregnancy in 40s: The Good, Bad & Ugly

Pregnancy in 40s comes with a unique set of challenges and gifts. In this post, hear one mom’s experience firsthand about being pregnant later in life.

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I am 43 years old, and I’m 34 weeks pregnant with my third child. Whew! And, I gotta say, pregnancy in 40s is a little bit different that it was in my 30s.

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Pregnancy in 40s: The Good, Bad & Ugly

Please hear my heart: I don’t want to add to the cacophony of voices out there that speak to how hard it is to be pregnant in your 40s. Or how it’s high-risk, geriatric, crazy, dangerous, rare, impossible, and on and on.

Women have been giving birth in their forties for hundreds and hundreds of years:

  • Elizabeth Hamilton, orphanage director, political activist, and wife of founding father Alexander Hamilton, had her 8th and last child at almost 45 years of age. (She ended up living to 97 back in the 1800s!)
  • In fact, there are many women in their fifties who conceive naturally and go onto to have healthy children. (source)
  • The oldest mom on record to conceive naturally is Dawn Brooke of the UK who gave birth to her son at 59 years old back in 1997. For moms using reproductive help, their age can be much older.
  • My paternal grandmother gave birth to her last child at 41, while my maternal grandmother gave birth to my aunt at age 42 (almost 43).

The point is: Women can give birth much later than in their 30s! But, it doesn’t always mean it is easier.

And that is the tension: I want to be encouraging, but I also want to be real with you. My pregnancy in 40s is different than the ones in my 30s; and I think it’s important to be honest in the journey and not sugarcoat the experience. This would be doing a disservice to my fellow mamas!

And it’s not just me…

The more I talk to moms who were, or are, pregnant at 40 or beyond, the more I realize that I’m not alone.

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Pregnancy in 40s: A Whole Different Ballgame

I met a gal at the park the other day who said she had a baby at 38, no problem. She is now 40 and pregnant with her second child, and she told me that every day is a struggle. She couldn’t believe the difference two years could make.

A friend of mine has three daughters… she had them at 36, 38, and 40. Again, her last pregnancy at 40 was the toughest.

I also read that Joanne Gaines, who had her fifth at the age of 40, said that her recent pregnancy forced her to slow down and rest.

“I am 40, and pregnancy this time was different,” she writes via People. “I have always really enjoyed being pregnant — I tend to feel my best during those nine months. This time I felt a little more worn out than usual. But being pregnant and forced to slow down has been a gift.”

8 Ways My Pregnancy in 40s Was Different

So, in this video and post, I share the top eight ways my pregnancy in 40s was different than my previous ones:

1. More Tired.

I just don’t have the energy I did before I got pregnant. I am well into my 3rd trimester, and I still will take the occasional catnap to get through the day. By nighttime? Fuhgeddaboudit. I am pretty much “done” once the kids are in bed.

Speaking of which, yes, I have two older children to take care of so this can certainly add to the fatigue. But, they are older and relatively “self-reliant.” That is to say, it’s not like I’m chasing around toddlers in diapers! Even still, I’m more tired in this pregnancy in 40s.

With my earlier pregnancies, sure, I was exhausted in the first trimester. I remember taking naps, especially with Paloma’s pregnancy, and needing some downtime during those first 12 or 13 weeks. But by the second trimester, I was back to my old self and doing #allthethings without feeling fatigued or even pregnant.

And, I’m generally just accepting my feelings of fatigue and taking rests when I need to. After all, pregnancy is hard work!

2. More Swollen.

Move over Sean Combs, Puff Mama is in the house! 🙂 I find that I’m retaining more fluids in this pregnancy in 40s versus my others.

Full disclosure: This could very well be my fault and nothing to do with age. You see, unlike my previous births, I’m not craving protein as much. If you know anything about the Brewer Diet, eating ample protein during pregnancy can help reduce swelling, edema, and puffiness. That’s because protein builds blood volume and helps to prevent fluids from “leaking” into tissue causing swelling. On the days that I force myself to get 90-100 grams of protein, the swelling does subside. (Need some protein ideas? Check out this post.)

Either way, though, I still feel that I’m more prone to retaining fluids and swelling in this pregnancy in 40s. I also feel bigger faster—like my baby is already 14 pounds, fully engaged, and ready to come out. ?

3. Feeling Hot, Hot, Hot!

OK, keep in mind that I had my previous children in Illinois in cooler months versus Florida in the summer, but mama, I am HOT this pregnancy! I can’t get enough air conditioning, fans, cool showers, and cold drinks. At this point, I avoid going outside during the afternoon and instead run errands and get exercise early in the morning. I just get too overheated! (And I’m sure this doesn’t help in the swelling department!)

I also have occasional hot flashes in my pregnancy in 40s versus none in my 30s. I’m sure this is due to hormonal demands and different hormonal outputs. I did test my progesterone early in pregnancy and had strong levels, but still have the hot flashes nonetheless.

One positive and/or possible side effect of having perhaps less sex hormones or different levels? I had ZERO morning sickness in this pregnancy. (PRAISE THE LORD!)

4. Body Soreness.

OK, I am fortunate that I didn’t get pelvic floor pain, round ligament pain, lightning crotch, sciatica, or other very common complaints during pregnancy with my first two. I know many pregnant women do get these (rightfully so!) and they love their body pillows, u-shaped pillows, c-shaped pillows, knee pillows, pillow-top covers and belly bands to help support their body’s expanding size. I just didn’t feel the need to have these accessories in my pregnancies in my 30s.

In this pregnancy in 40s, things are different.

Around 20 weeks, I noticed soreness upon awakening in my hips and pelvic area. It dawned on me that I probably need more support to get through without pain. I started placing a pillow between my legs while I slept at night and voilà—pain went away. Grateful for an easy fix!

I also wear this belly band for a few hours several times a week for added support. The key is to not overwear the belly band, as it can lead to further muscle weakness.

5. More dialed into the testing.

Probably more because of my previous losses versus my age, I am more fixated on tests during this pregnancy. I also think it’s the messages we get in the media… “getting pregnant in 40s is rare… is  dangerous… is geriatric… is impossible… is scary…” and on and on.

It’s funny because I am with a low-intervention midwife, but in the measurements that we do do like blood pressure, fundal height, weight gain, gestational diabetes testing (my idea), I am more nervous and curious of results. In the past, I never thought twice—I always assumed they would be normal.

6. Mentally psyching self out.

In this pregnancy in 40s, I am a little less confident of the physical demands of gestation and birth.

Case in point: the deliberation on where I should give birth.

Unlike Illinois, there are no birth centers close by to where I live in Florida. My choices are either home birth with midwife or hospital birth. While it seems like a no brainer for Mama Natural to give birth at home, I had some reservations (and so did Papa Natural).

Would it be safe? Am I a good candidate? Am I too old? 

After some prayer and good, professional counsel, we decided to go for a home birth. (EEEKKKK!) In fact, my conservative Chicago midwife said that I was an excellent candidate since my pregnancy has gone so smoothly (age is not a factor for home birth safety) and because I almost gave birth to Paloma in the car. In fact, she said it would be safer for someone like me to give birth at home.

While in the past, I may have only needed my own reassurance, this time I needed others to tell me it was OK.

7. More open to accepting help.

Before this pregnancy, I always thought I was super woman. I want to do it all and control every detail and manage everything my way. This time around? I’m like “Mama need help.”

I am blessed by such a supportive community who have chipped in so much along the way…

  • I think I’ve purchased 2-3 maternity clothing items. Everything else has been hand-me-downs.
  • I have yet to buy one onesie for this child since I have bags full of gently used baby clothes from friends.
  • A neighbor is picking up my crib from Ikea in a few weeks.
  • My mom is going to stay with me for a week after baby is born.
  • I am having a friend help me prep postnatal, nourishing meals.

Point is: I’m not doing this alone.

As Joanna Gaines said about her pregnancy in 40s, “Since Crew’s birth, I have a new understanding of the reality of the phrase ‘it takes a village.’”

8. You Don’t Take It for Granted.

Because of all the factors listed above, I am not sweating the small stuff. My house doesn’t have to be perfectly organized. I can let go of certain obligations. I don’t need #allthethings for this baby. I just take it day by day and do what I can.

Perhaps my nesting instinct isn’t as strong? Or perhaps I don’t have the same levels of adrenaline? But overall, I am much more laid back and chill during this pregnancy in 40s. It could also very well be that it’s my 3rd child (I even saw a big change in my attitude between my 1st and 2nd pregnancies!)

I also don’t take the miracle for granted. Each day, I am so filled with gratitude. Just the fact that there is a growing little life inside of me fills me with awe.

I also realize that at 43, this will be my last pregnancy. So there is such a feeling of completion, wholeness, gratitude, and grace around the whole experience. I am so thankful that I get to do this one more time!

Because of my previous experiences, I am more confident in my mothering abilities and in taking care of a child. I also get the precious opportunity to see a new life through my children’s eyes. Because they are older, they understand the process more as they pat my tummy or ask questions about breastfeeding, diaper changes, and burping baby. They can’t wait to help out!

Don’t Get Me Wrong…

Overall, I have had a fantastic, normal, low-risk pregnancy. I am able to function each day. I can get things done. My life is manageable. But I have had to make some adjustments along the way that I didn’t have to make with my pregnancies before. AND IT’S BEEN TOTALLY WORTH IT!

I am confident that there are some 40+ women out there who feel absolutely amazing being pregnant and are energized by the whole experience. Don’t think that just because you are in your 40s and pregnant, your experience will be like mine. We are all so unique!

I wanted to share my experience in case it helps a mama who may be struggling or feel like it’s extra hard. While it has been more intense to be pregnant in 40s, I would do it again in a heartbeat. The gift of this new life is beyond my wildest dreams!

How About You?

Have you been pregnant in your 40s? What was your experience? What did you learn? Share with us in the comments below!

Genevieve Howland

About the Author

Genevieve Howland is a childbirth educator and breastfeeding advocate. She is the bestselling author of The Mama Natural Week-by-Week Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth and creator of the Mama Natural Birth Course. A mother of three, graduate of the University of Colorado, and YouTuber with over 85,000,000 views, she helps mothers and moms-to-be lead healthier and more natural lives.

49 Comments

  1. This post is long, but please read because I could really use some feedback. I am 45 years old. Normal weight. Good, active lifestyle. I don’t drink or smoke ever. My AMH (anti- mullerian hormone) is high for my age. It’s 1.45 (which is typically seem in the 38-40 year old range), so that’s good. I have three children (the oldest is 19 and the youngest is 9). The youngest is from my current marriage, and the only biological child of my husband’s. All three births were vaginal and no problems at all during pregnancy or childbirth. About 4 years ago, my husband got a vasectomy….we thought we were done having kids. For the past year, I have longed for another child. It’s not just a temporary feeling. It’s a deep longing, and I wish so much that my husband had never gotten the vasectomy. Even though I am 45, we still decided to meet with doctors to discuss the possibility of getting the vasectomy reversed. The doctor said there’s a 95% chance of having viable sperm after 3 months. Good news. I also met with my doctor and had blood tests. My doctor told me I’m very healthy and he encouraged us to try to have another baby if we felt like it’s what we wanted to do. All of my blood work was in the normal range for fertility. The AMH of 1.45 was very encouraging and unusual for someone that is 45, so this really gave me hope. However, we still feel like maybe this is just really radical and far out to even think about doing this. The fact that my husband has to have a vasectomy reversed adds even more doubt. I realize that even if a pregnancy is even possible, that the window of opportunity is extremely narrow. We also realize that there’s an increased risk of abnormalities with the baby or problems in the pregnancy. The urologist also mentioned that another factor in our favor is that my husband and I have a good fertility background together. Without going into much detail, I know exactly when I conceived our son (age 9 now), and it happened on the first try of trying to conceive. I was 34 years old when I got pregnant with him. Statistically, even at 34 years of age, it should have taken us longer to conceive than it did. Maybe I’m just trying to only see the good. Am I crazy for even considering this?

    • No you are not crazy 🙂 You’ve got the mama heart! I would pray and listen to that still small voice. You have many factors in your favor. It isn’t as easy *raising* a child in your 40’s but it’s also very joyful. AND, you’ll have plenty of helpers. My AMH was 0.70 at 42 so you’re rocking it in that area! Wishing you peace and clarity.

  2. Just to add some encouragement–I had my sixth and seventh in my 40s and had great pregnancies and births. There is sooooo much negativity and even medical scare tactics out there for “older” mothers. Just remember that before the pill women often had babies in their 40s. You can do it! Stay healthy, active, and positive! ♥️

  3. I’m 46 and pregnant. This is truely a miracle baby. My daughter is 24. I am so excited about being pregnant because I was told I would never get pregnant again.
    I am seven weeks and extremely tired, I could sleep all day. Before I got pregnant I was pretty active. Now I just look forward to sleeping. I need some advice on how to deal with this.

  4. I love this thread and reading all of it! I just turned 43 and our surprise baby is due in 3-4 weeks! So much for the vasectomy and birth control pills, obvious they didn’t work. My Doctor has been great and reassuring with my age when I’ve heard so many downfalls and bad about being pregnant in your 40s. Which for the first time I opted in and did ALL test that were offered in this pregnancy. Prior pregnancies I never did the chromosome or glucose test. For the most part it’s been pretty easy other then just really tired more and body pain. This will be my 4th. First was at 28 and I remember being tired all the time. My 2nd and 3rd were at 32 and 36 and I remember feeling great through both. I was a lucky one and have never had any morning sickness or anything!!! As this due dates approaching I am getting really nervous, as I’m crossing my fingers for a easy healthy vaginal delivery like my last 3. I think this will be the scariest part for me.
    I have gotten throughout this pregnancy my friends and family reminding me that “omg you’re going to be like 60 when this kid graduates highschool” those comments have not helped and I know they say it more as a joke with no harm it gets me thinking maybe I was too old to have this baby. But then I remind myself age is only a number and I still feel just as youthful as I did 10 years ago.
    Thank you for the original post and all the amazing women that have followed up with addition stories and comments.

  5. I take issue with this article. My first pregnancy was at age 42, and I was literally climbing mountains and going to music festivals until around 35 weeks. I felt fantastic. I was never pregnant in my 20’s or 30’s so I can’t compare, but I can’t imagine I possibly could have felt any better. My second pregnancy at 45 was extremely difficult, only because I was pregnant with identical twins. A twin pregnancy is a whole different ballgame, it doesn’t matter how old you are. Now, at 46, and not having slept more than 3 hour stretches in over 10 months (I am still nursing my twins who have never had an ounce of formula), I am still energetic enough that I am contemplating another baby. Age IS just a number. I know 20-somethings who do far less than I do on any given day and still complain that they are tired.

    • Yes!! Had my sixth and seventh in my mid forties and felt great with both pregnancies–great births, too! Positive attitude, eating well, staying active all are important!

  6. Hi lovely and courageous mamas.

    I’ll be 43 in two months and I’m 35 weeks pregnant. We thought the window had passed and gave up on having a second, then voila! Found out in February I was pregnant. My other son is six and a half. I don’t recall it being so tough last time. In fact I remember enjoying it for the most past. This time around in my third trimester I have zero energy, all the ligament issues that are possible, hormonal and crying, swollen, back aches… the list goes on. I’ll be delivering via cesarean birth on November 19 and I can’t come soon enough for me.
    I’m grateful for this miracle for our family and I’m over this pregnancy at this point. Counting down eagerly…
    ???

  7. I loved reading your piece, thank you! I need to share my story as I am at a loss. I just found out yesterday I am pregnant (43)! I am three weeks away from an elective hysterectomy due to endometrisos, adenosis and uterine fibroid. Plus I have non-alcoholic liver disease so am seeking all the medical advice I can get from my Dr’s right now! I had one daughter 11 years ago (all naturally) after surgery for severe endometriosis and that felt like enough but now it’s as if the universes has thorwn me a super curve ball! I ahve two teenage step sons as well. I don’t even know if I should go ahead with this due to all my medical concerns and then there are the inherent risks of being a mature age mother. Sheesh! At the same time I feel this 1% miracle is important and precious, I also only have one ovary and tube as I kept getting haemorrgic cysts on the faulty one and had it removed. So really, what are the chances of this all happening naturally ?? It’s crazy to think about it. This is all so surreal right now! Thanks for listening, and to all thanks for sharing your stories too! Lee.

  8. I just found out that I”m pregnant with my 6th. I am 42 and never thought I’d be pregnant again. All 5 of my children were born at home. I was very young with my first three, then remarried and now have a 7 year old and 3 year old. I was 39 when my last son was born. I’m worried about doing it all again at “my age”. Thank you for your video – it helped ease some of my worries.

  9. Hi congratulations to everyone. I’m 43 and am 6weeks pregnant with my 8th pregnancy and 5th child.. I’m more tired and spotting when I wipe occasionally. My last child-youngest is 14. I’m grateful for this miracle and scared that this wonderful gift will leave

    • Ashley I just read your post and praying.

  10. Well I had both my kids in my early 40s so I don’t have anything to compare it to. Lol. All went well. I’m only annoyed at the level of ignorance there is about fertility and pregnancy after 40. People assuming my kids wouldn’t be “Ok” etc. because of my age really pissed me off. Thankfully they are thriving.

  11. Im 43 & pregnant. I miscarried last year & im scared. My youngest is 19 & i have 5_ grandchildren. Im making a hospital appointment this week. #scaredsomuch

  12. 43 and 25w pregnant with my 5th, a surprise pregnancy. You nailed it on the head with what you listed. This pregnancy is kicking my butt and taking names *lol* Can’t find mom? Check her bed. Best wishes 🙂

  13. I have actually felt better physically during this pregnancy (at almost 40) compared to my last birth at almost 38. I attribute it to exercise mostly. Although I did exercise faithfully with the previous pregnancy, I really focused on building muscle with this one. That has made a HUGE difderence in the aches and pains I experienced in my hips and lower back during my previous 2 pregnancies. Balanced blood sugar helps too–getting enough protein, as well as making sure my carbs are healthy ones (I found that sweet treats make me feel SUPER tired, much as they seem enticing at times). I found I needed to save most of my carbs for later in the day–it has helped my energy tremendously and my sleep is better. This is my 8th pregnancy, and I feel so much stronger than I did with #6 and 7.

    • same here almost! I turned 41 y/o today and this is my 8th baby, currently 19 weeks and feeling huge and at times tired no other aches and pains and zero morning sickness ( but that is normal for me) I do feel better on the 5-6 days a week I exercise (walking 2 miles, squats, upper/lower body utube videos occasionally, etc) I am not happy with having already gained 20 lbs but I am definitely eating healthier than I have ever been and I am still only 158 lbs at 5’8″ so,,,mostly hoping for a better delivery this time around since my last one was terribly long and painful…but I am hoping that was cuz I ate lots of sugar and did ZERO exercise that pregnancy so I am doing the best I can this time around to avoid that! but yes! pregnancy past 40 does seem a bit different, I definitely need 9 hrs of sleep a night!

  14. We are expecting our ninth baby this January, the same month I turn 43. I have had three babies in my 20’s, four in my 30’s, and this will be my second in my 40’s. There is an obvious difference in how your body responds the older you get. My advice is to listen to what your body is telling you and respond accordingly. Our bodies are designed to do this and know what to do and we just need to cooperate. My pregnancy at 38 was my hardest and it was because I fought my body on everything- I didn’t want to slow down, I wanted to call the shots on when I did what, I wanted to prove to myself and everyone else that I could do everything I did during my other pregnancies. I didn’t cooperate and I paid for it. I have since learned to accept my limitations and not view them as weaknesses but as facts of life that are beyond my control. I now listen to what my body is telling me; I rest when I feel tired, I sit down when my feet ache or my stomach ligaments are protesting, I take time to drink water when I haven’t drank enough that day, I make time to take a walk because I know it is good for both me and the baby. And while I do that, all the other things that seem so important can wait and things will be fine. My forties pregnancies have gone great, and, although not easier, have been more manageable with my newfound submissive perspective. And regarding those who judge you when you have a lot of pregnancies, they obviously have some internal personal issues they are wrestling with that they either may or may not even be aware of, so know that their main issue is with themselves, not you. Offer a smile, say a prayer for them, and walk away.

  15. I am so afraid and need advice! I am 41. This is my second pregnancy after 14years and I found out some not so good news at my first doc. Appt. I should be 6wks and measuring 5w. My doc was concerned so did bloodwork. Results: my progesterone real low. 6.1 and doc prescribed me Progesterone 200mg taken orally. I am sitting here contemplating on taking it. I want to have this baby naturally. He has mentioned I could be experiencing an impending pregnancy because something is not right. Ive never had a miscarriage. So my question is is taking progesterone the right thing to do? Am I forcing a pregnancy that is already unhealthy? Is progesterone healthy for the baby? For me?Will my baby be born healthy or possible complications because of this? I dont know what to do? I didn’t have the opportunity to talk it out with my doc over the phone when he told me because I was at work. Please we need advice!

    • Unfortunately those are questions that I cannot answer as I am not a doctor. Please do your research and ask yourself the BRAIN questions
      Benefits
      Risks
      Alternatives
      Intuition
      Nothing (what happens if we do nothing)

  16. I had my now 2yr old son at a freestanding birth center w/a midwife at age 43. You can definitely give birth naturally in your 40s, but if you give birth at home I urge you to have an airtight plan for gettting to the hospital asap if complications arrise. The complications I experienced immediately following birth were beyond what could be handled at a birth center or at home.

  17. I am 39 years old not yet 40 until next year but this will be my second delivery after 18 years. My first child was born when I was 21 yo which was so easy for me then. I worked 2 jobs and went to massage during my first pregnancy and I didn’t think slowing down was necessary. I was pregnant through the entire summer and the only adjustment I remember making was switching high heels to flats or wedges. My son came out perfect and the dr. claims it was an easy delivery.

    FF to now I have relentless heart burn and I’m always exhausted. I can’t seem to balance the acid in my body and it’s a challenge to get enough rest. I crave ice cold water and no matter how much I drink it’s never enough. I’m always over heating and I’m a hot yoga girl so I can usually stand the heat but not now. I’m due in December and I’ve been gaining weight since the first trimester. This time I’ll have my baby at home instead of the hospital.

    Overall, it’s been a great experience but I can totally tell the difference between my younger self and now. This is my husband’s first baby so he is on cloud nine and makes my life super easy and for that I’m grateful.

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  19. Congratulations! My mom was almost 42 when I was born, and her mom had her last baby at 46. I am 28 and 18 weeks pregnant with my 4th, and it’s so different every time! I was totally exhausted unlike before. I have to keep up with chiro and PT to get my back and pelvis to a manageable level of pain. I’ve had to increase this kind of care with each pregnancy. Best wishes and can’t wait to hear your next birth story!

  20. Congratulations, You go Mama! Ditto to every last thing you said. I had my 6th at 41yrs old . I am now 43 yrs and let me tell you the difference is REAL! I had to change my perspective of how I did things and allow a lot more grace into my life. Not only during my pregnancy but after as well. It is not a bad thing just a different thing. Can’t wait to hear about your homebirth experience.

  21. Way to go Mama! No matter how you feel you are a rockstar doing this! I am glad that you are doing well and as a Mom who is turning 40 in a few months and thinking about #2 you are giving me lots of courage, strength and a feeling that I can do this too! I was 38 when I had my first last year and am feeling pressure to start for #2 soon as I am getting “old”. It is so refreshing to hear your experience and that you also know other Mom’s having babies in their 40s. I have read many things about health mattering over age and that is going to be my mantra whenever it happens! I hope you have an easy breezy delivery and thank you for being so open and vulnerable with us!

  22. Thanks for the video. Needed to hear a positive message. I had 3 baby’s in my 20’s and one at 40. Now 42.5 we have had 2 miscarriages in the last 6 months and I really want to keep trying. We would love to have just 1 more baby. But I’m starting to feel a little judged by people. And like this is just not going to happen. Your message has given me hope to keep trying for a little bit longer. X

    • I am sad about your loses. I pray for strength and blessings for you. People who judge you don’t deserve your respect.

  23. It is wonderful to see that you’re doing so well with your pregnancy! I have enjoyed your videos so much over the years — you have taught me a ton about being a mom. I replicated your reusable diaper routine and have been so successful with it. Enjoy this special time of pregnancy, birth, and newborn! You’re right it is such a beautiful gift!

  24. Hi Mama Natural! ? Every time I hear Daft Punk’s “one more time” (and we hear it a lot because we have daft punk on our iTunes playlist), I think of you and pray for you and your fam! What a sweet time ? I’m glad everything is going well for you and baby. Definitely understand the struggles. I had babies in my 20’s, then in my 30’s… my last one, my 4th bebe, was ROUGH (37). I hope and pray everything goes quickly (maybe not TOO quickly?) and smoothly and beautifully during your labor and birth at home. God bless you and yours ❤️?

  25. I just had my first child at 40. I do not have anything to compare it to except for my sisters having children in the 30s. I also have hypothyroid, so was probably more lathargic than some. Aside from being more tired, I had a wonderful pregnancy. No sickness, no food aversions, etc. I did get ankle swelling in my last month of pregnancy, which hung around and seemed worse for a month following delivery. I ended up being induced, so the epidural I wasn’t planning on getting, I got because I heard contractions while being induced are more painful. After the epidural, before they restarted the induction, the baby’s heart rate kept dropping, so I ended up also having the unwanted c-section. I was a little sad, but was realistic and told my midwife I wanted to do whatever was best for the baby and myself. We delivered in a hospital as I was more high risk. That said, I’m considering having another in a year if we are so blessed, so I’ll be 42. Our first was conceived with an IUI, fortunately on the first try. Hoping to naturally conceive when we try again, but would again consider an IUI if we need a little help. I loved being pregnant, even at 40. I was so happy to be blessed to give birth to a healthy and happy baby boy. ?

    • Oh, I forgot to mention, my pregnancy was full-term. He was delivered on his due date.

      • How wonderful!

  26. I had my twin boys at 41. My pregnancy was full-term and completely without a complication, in spite of all the negativity rained on me by the medical profession. My legs and feet did swell up beyond what I thought was possible, but that was about all. It’s seven years later, and NOW I’m tired!!

    • The negativity is something else! I’m so grateful for my midwife!

  27. I had 2 babies in my 40’s at 41 and 44. I have also had 3 in my 20’s and 3 in my 30’s! Ha! I would say pregnancy in my 40’s was wonderful! Yes I rested more and it slowed me way down but it’s more because of gratefulness. I had a miscarriage in my 30’s that really taught me to cherish each day with my child, born or unborn. I also had my last 6 children at home. You can do this Mama. You know your body and your strengths now more than ever. I also took way more recovery time after pregnancy not because I recovered slower, which I didn’t, but because my life was so full of blessing and responsibilities in my 40’s and each child deserves your time. Don’t rush back to regular life. Slow down and get to know your baby. Your life will wait. And one last thing don’t underestimate all those life giving, youth giving, hormones coursing through your body. They keep you young! Tight skin and full hair!

    • Danette, you’re a rock star!!!! And thank you for your encouraging words ??

  28. I’m so excited you decided to birth at home! I opted to have my 3rd at home (at age 37) after the first two were born in water at a birth center. For the same reasons you mentioned, I knew it would be a fast labor! It is an amazing experience, so peaceful and so serene to be able to crawl into your own bed with your newborn and not have to go anywhere! You’ll love it!

    • I can’t wait!!!! So glad to hear that you had such a great experience with it.

  29. Of course, 40+ is not the best age to be pregnant. The body knows. I just turned 40 and I don’t think I could do another pregnancy. You are brave, pregnant at 43!

  30. Oh I’m so excited to hear you and Papa Natural have opted for a home birth. I’ve had two at a birth center and two at home and really loved the home birth. It was such a calm, peaceful, comfortable environment for birth. No unfamiliar faces, no pressure for interventions. It felt so safe and well, natural! Will you use a birth tub? I’ve delivered all four in the water and highly recommend having one available and ready, even if it turns out it doesn’t feel good in the moment and you choose to deliver outside the tub. I had my 4th at 34 and while I can’t rule out having another some day, mentally I feel stretched thin! Looking forward to hearing all about your delivery! By the way, my kids LOVE flipping through the pages of your natural pregnancy book! A few nights ago I told them you were pregnant right now and their eyes got so big and wide! We’re all very excited for your family!
    We pray God’s hand of protection over you all!
    -Irene

    • You are too sweet, Irene, and so are your kids! 🙂 I will have a tub just in case, even though I tend to like to give birth on land. Haha! So appreciate your prayers and support!

  31. Hi there,
    SO happy to read this post. I am 42 and pregnant for the first time. Due March 1. I’d never even tried before this year–time flew so fast and I woke up and realized, hey! If we want to do this, we have to do it NOW! It only took a couple of months AND I’ve had zero sickness. I actually feel great!! (except for the sore boobs and notice I get tired and hungry more quickly).

    My question is about ultrasound. I’m still SO CONFUSED. I get that you (reading your book!), Kelly Brogan, Chris Kresser and so many others whom I respect say it’s not necessary or once is enough.

    Because of my age, do I need to do this? Of course we want to check for the chromosome 21. I had cell free DNA testing done last week at my first Dr. appt (10 weeks). He also did a mini ultrasound in his office, 2 minutes or so, just to see that someone’s in there and moving! They scheduled me for the Ultrasound at another facility EOM and said it goes with the blood test to check for nuchal length and any abnormalities.

    In your opinion, do you think this is something I should do? Push it to 20 weeks? We haven’t even announced yet because I want to make sure everything is ok before I do…

    I’m so confused. I want to do what’s right, and also as naturally as possible. Wanting to do a water birth (but we have to move first to be able to accommodate that!!) #goals

    First things first…ultrasound for abnormalities? And if it’s the one, then when???

    Thanks so much for reading!!
    First time Momma at 42,
    Allison

    • There are some things that are easier to detect at certain weeks of pregnancy, so you should check with your midwife if there are specific things you are trying to rule out. I read the Mama Natural book and it was wonderful, but every pregnancy is unique, so you have to do what you feel is best given the circumstances and facts. My husband has a hereditary heart defect, so on top of the regular ultrasounds, we had an echo ultrasound to check the baby’s heart. We also did the chromosomal and abnormality testing, but it was definitely before the 20 week anatomy ultrasound because it is easier to check for certain things earlier on. I had a number of ultrasounds and our little guy is a happy and healthy 2.5 month old. I’d suggest talking to your doctor or midwife if you have concerns about the number of ultrasounds you will need. They will be able to explain everything and you are able to decline once you have all the info. Being 40 and high risk when I was pregnant, I followed my midwife’s and doctor’s orders. I figured I needed to know the baby was safe and doing that gave me the reassurance.

  32. I had pregnancy’s at 24, 25 and 41. I actually found them all similar but I am much more healthy and holistic now then I was in my twenty’s! I’m 43 now and you’re tempting me to have another ?

    • Go for it 🙂 🙂 🙂

  33. I’m 40 and due on September 26 with my first! I feel completely fine as long as I sleep well – which isn’t always the case. We got married when we were 35, then ended up having to do IVF. Birth centers are illegal in my state, so I will have a natural hospital birth with a doula present. I have 3 more embryos on ice for the coming years! Haha!

    • We have twinkie due dates! We’re getting so close. Congratulations, Holly! You’re gonna LOVE being a mama!!!! ?


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