Here’s the fourth and final part of my birth story.
My first childbirth was 27 hours long, I needed two drops of Pitocin to push my son out, and I had a 2 degree tear. Whereas with this birth I had just a few hours of active labor and no tears at all. Which begs the question, why was this one so much easier? In this video, I cover the four factors that I believe made all the difference.
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Why Was My Childbirth So Easy?
This is the fourth and final video of my natural childbirth story. Yay! Thanks for sticking with us so long here. In this video, I’m gonna share with you four tips that I think made this birth so much easier than my first.
Now, before I dive into those tips, let me just put a disclaimer out there. We could do everything perfectly and under the sun to prepare for a wonderful natural childbirth, and we can still have a really hard birth; that was my experience with my first.
I did Bradley, natural birthing classes, I did squats, I did special exercises, I ate perfectly, and you know what? My birth was hard. 27 hours, two-degree tear, I needed two drops of [BATOSIN] even to push my son out. It was brutal, and I actually had to go through a grieving process because it was not the birth that I wanted.
The greatest gift that we can give ourselves is to accept the birth that we are given. I know some moms that wanted a natural childbirth so much and they ended up having emergency C-sections; and thank God they did because their lives or their babies’ lives were in danger. I know other moms who have successful V-backs, or water births or home births.
The important thing for us is to work with the labor that we’re given, to accept it with grace, and to do as best as we can. Having said all that, I do think there were four factors that made this birth a lot easier than my first time around.
Starting with number one: This was my second birth. Yes it’s true. Second time births go a lot faster, usually, than the first. If you think about it, it’s because we already had a baby basically be the trailblazer so our body knows what to do. I could tell even when I was pregnant that this birth was gonna go faster from the way she rested in my body and the way my Braxton Hicks were happening, and that sort of thing.
In fact, when I talked to lots of other moms, most of them said that their second births were about half the time of their first. So I was kind of prepping myself for a 12-hour, 14-hour labor. Little did I know that it would be a lot faster than that.
The second factor that I think helped was body prep. Now, I started seeing a chiropractor who specialize in the Webster technique about two months before I gave birth. Now some mommas get extra credit because they start the minute they find out they’re pregnant, and I think that’s awesome. I didn’t do it that way, but either way, I think it helped a ton. I would go in once or twice a week, he would align my pelvis, get me in a really good place so that birth would be easier.
Now it’s interesting to know that with my first pregnancy, I saw the same chiropractor, but I only gave myself four weeks before my due date, and I was working full-time sitting a lot at the day so my pelvis would always get out of alignment just because we’re not meant to be sitting that much. But the second time around, since I’m chasing a three-year-old toddler and I’m a lot more active, my pelvis was a lot more stable.
I also did a lot of exercises outside of his office to keep myself in good balance. Now I did a whole separate video about that, about exercises that you can do to get your baby in optimum position for birth, so be sure to check that out. There’ll be a link in the video description below, but another great resource is checking out spinningbabies.com where she talks all about getting our bodies in good condition for birth.
The third factor was I drank red raspberry leaf tea consistently. Now I did a lot of things in terms of diet and supplements and stuff during this pregnancy, but the one thing I was most consistent with was drinking that tea. For my second trimester on, I had it almost every single day. What I did was I would just brew up a double batch, so like 16 ounces so I’d have two cups a day, I would sip it all afternoon, and I am telling you it made such a difference.
What red raspberry leaf tea does is it tones our uterine muscle and the whole pelvic wall area, and boy could I feel that. When I was giving birth and in labor, my contractions were so deep and effective and yet not really that painful; it was awesome. Compared to my first birth, they were really erratic and they were kind of hyper and they weren’t really that strong. So I definitely, definitely recommend the red raspberry leaf tea.
In fact, two days before I gave birth I made a huge batch of this double strength red raspberry leaf tea, I got the loose tea, I brewed it up and it was very, very strong. So I drank a quart of it the day before I gave birth and a quart on the morning I gave birth. I had no idea I was going into labor, and wow, I think it really super charged my delivery.
The fourth and final factor that I think made all the difference was prayer. Now don’t get me wrong, when I was pregnant with Griffin, we prayed a ton, too. But with this birth, we just took it up a notch, and I started filling my mind with positive thoughts around birth; the book that helped me the most on that was called Supernatural Childbirth. Now I know some people that used hypno-birthing or hypno-babies to basically do the same thing, but it was just about reframing that—‘Hey, I can actually have a birth that was enjoyable, that was quick and it didn’t have to be hard and painful.,’ and it really helped to do that, to start thinking differently.
I also, during labor, listened to this MP3 called Childbirth and the Glory. I am telling you, this was my favorite tool out of anything I used, because I essentially labored most of the time alone. Mike was either sleeping or he was out getting food, when I got to the hospital, my doula was only with me for about ten minutes, so it was just me and my little MP3 player, listening to this music and it just helped me a ton.
I felt so much with and connected to God, and that power got me through. I also had a lot of you praying for me, so thank you so much for that, and let’s not forget those 600 praying nuns. I’m telling you, once my mom gave me that call and told me that they were praying, I felt like this huge shift. In fact, when I was in the car in the hospital, I’m like, ‘Gosh, these nuns have power.’
So there you have it, the four factors that I think really helped me have a faster and easier and actually enjoyable childbirth, but we’d love to hear from you. I know a lot of mommas out there who have some great birth stories, share with us any tips or tricks that you did that helped you along, leave it in the comments below. Thanks as always for tuning in.